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Why I don't use a task app for personal goals

Alex, senior software engineer and author of Alex's Whiteboard blog

Alex

· 5 min read

I use Linear at work. It's a good tool for engineering work, where the thing you're trying to manage is a set of tasks with clear definitions of done and real dependencies between them. A ticket is either shipped or it isn't. That binary is useful.

Personal goals don't work that way. A goal like "be more present with my daughter" or "think more clearly before reacting in difficult conversations" doesn't have a definition of done. You can't check it off. If you put it in a task app, it either sits there as a permanent reminder of your inadequacy or you delete it in frustration.

What I put on the board instead is not a task but a question. Not "be more present" but "am I present?" Not "react better" but "what's actually going on when I don't?" These are different things. A task demands completion. A question demands engagement. I want engagement with the hard personal problems, not completion ceremonies.

The board is also forgiving in a way that apps aren't. I can put something up and let it sit for two weeks while I think about it obliquely. The app would be showing me a due date and a red badge. The board just stays there, patient, waiting for me to be ready.

The things I put on the board in this category are usually three or four at a time. I look at them most mornings. Some of them evolve over weeks into clearer forms. A few have resolved on their own — I stopped needing the reminder because something shifted. Those I erase with some satisfaction that isn't quite the same as ticking a box, but is adjacent to it.